Why Are Mean People Mean

I have a theory.

Maybe mean people lead unhappy lives. I look around me, and I have never met a successful and contented person who has ever been hurtful, judgemental and demeaning towards other people.

What I noticed is that people who normally say harsh things toward other people are going through some battle. Failed romantic relationships or lack thereof, family problems, financial woes, career frustrations. It seems that being mean becomes their drug of choice - their fix.

No matter how true or factual something is, I have never met a happy person belittle anyone for their life choices.They definitely show respect in an effort to agree to disagree.

I think it's a mean person's way of deflecting from their own personal issues and they get a temporary happiness or a quick high by being hurtful. They have no control over their own problems, so when they know they can bully a person it gives them a feeling of control - control which is something that they don't have over their own problems.

So the next time someone is ever mean to you, instead of getting upset or trying to retaliate, be the bigger person. That bully hurting you, is maybe also hurting inside.

Be grateful that you get enough support from friends and family that you don't need to be hurtful towards other people to go through life's ordeals.

I think a person who feels well loved by friends and family are understanding and forgiving. They are not hurtful, judgemental and vindictive. They have no time to hate.

Maybe only people with void in their hearts will. And maybe they try to fill that void with crass actions.

I don't think mean people are born mean.
Maybe they're not really mean.
Maybe they're just unhappy.
And for some, being mean is easier than to accept and let anyone know your unhappy.

Don't be like them. Continue to be kind. :)